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pantang.

perna dgr tk pantang ni? - "dah senja ni. balik cepattt. senja-senja mcm ni, byk syaitan berkeliaran". yea. mmg dari zaman kanak-kanak lagi, kalau pergi main dgn jiran-jiran dkt sect 4 tu, kami adik-beradik semua dididik utk balik rumah sebelum maghrib. dan kena dah siap mandi sebelum bang maghrib lg. kalau blk lambat, mmg nak kena marah la tu. ho ho. dan saya, cey masa kecik dulu, salah sorg anak yg plggg sng dgr ckp mak ayah. hati suci enn. dpt plk ayah yg agak strict kannn, ha ha. masa kecik2 dulu, sape2 yg guna bahasa "aku/kau", nnt kena cili mulut (not literally). mungkin sbb tu, kesannya sampai skrg, i can't even forcefully spill those words out. kalau nak ckp dgn lelaki, mmg tk guna kata ganti nama lgsg. agak susah nak berkomunikasi, tho. tp kalau IM/text, blh jer. hueh. tp masa dkt smk sect 9 dulu senang sikit sbb budak-budak laki mmg tk ckp aku/kau kalau dgn perempuan. being gentleman? idk. ouh, but idm though.

neways, had a frisbee training ptg td dkt padang merdeka shah alam. sepatutnya pagi tadi but it was raining cats and dogs. tp ptg td was subhanAllah sooo breezy. padang tu dahla terbaikkk. sgt syiok main frisbee tadi. sampai la dah nak maghrib. maka kami pun berhenti la. dan dah dehydrated tu, pergi la plk minum di kedai kopi. tp masa tu dah rasa mcm parents dkt rumah risau. tp tatau kenapa, i dint even make a phone call asking my mom to fetch me up.. 'cuz i thot she was probably v/ busy preparing bd. plus my friend offered to send me home. tp kena ikut dorg minum dulu la kan. ada yg dah balik awuka puasa for my daal. tgh2 minum tu, my mom phoned and i assured her that i'll be home in a short while. then we hang up. pastu. tgh2 minum tu, azan maghrib. ouh, mmg rasa gundah gulana bila la nak balik ni. hueh. later on, the head of the family pulak phone. gulp. knowing that keluar waktu maghrib tu mmg tk elok, plus kerisauan ibubapa, as well as terpaksa join minum dkt kedai kopi sbb kebergantungan dkt kereta org utk balik rumah, sgtlah menambahkah rasa gundah gulana. guess it was my fault, patutnya ajak2 dorg blk cepat2 sikit. tp tah, kenapa tah tk ckp betul2. darn. afta subsequent phone call(s), alhamdulillah i managed to be home, safe and sound. (less than 5min drive pun sebenarnya). heh. bila dkt rumah, yes, both of my parents were waiting for me. and yes, kena lecture. tp mcm biasa, bila ada arguments (argument ke ni?) dgn sesapa, i'd shut my mouth up. wpun i haf my own explanations. still, sgt rasa mcm anak yg tk reti jaga hati parents. aand ohh, just so you know, berada di luar rumah waktu maghrib, is a big, big, big deal in our family (except for certain circumstances;- frisbee training is not one of them). and i feeeeeeeeellllllll badddddddddddddddd to the utmost degree. tskkkkk. i feel bad for not capable to cater the prob in the first place. T.T i should have influenced my friends to finish our training earlierrr. dang. mcm nilah. bila riadah yg pada asalnya benda yg elok bertukar jadi benda yg tk sepatutnya. dulu pun perna. balik dr OU maghrib2. pastu accident. hah. tk makan saman btl. ugh.

berbalik kpd pantang td. tu bkn lah pantang-larang org tua semata-mata. tis in fact a hadith, recorded in sahih bukhari. (baru google ni).

Rasulullah shallallahu 'alaihi wasallam:

إِذَا اسْتَجْنَحَ اللَّيْلُ (أَوْ قَالَ جُنْحُ اللَّيْلِ) فَكُفُّوا صِبْيَانَكُمْ فَإِنَّ الشَّيَاطِينَ تَنْتَشِرُ حِينَئِذٍ فَإِذَا ذَهَبَ سَاعَةٌ مِنْ الْعِشَاءِ فَخَلُّوهُمْ.

Apabila malam menjelang tiba maka tahanlah anak-anak kalian (dari keluar) kerana sesungguhnya pada waktu itu syaitan-syaitan berkeliaran. Apabila telah berlalu waktu Isya’, maka lepaskanlah mereka.[44]

teringat satu vid dkt fm pny blog. birrul walidain. tk guna byk solat, puasa, sedekah, baca quran, masters, phd, etc kalau ibubapa kita tk redha dgn kita. ayat tkley lupa: even if you die as a martyr! make your parents satisfied! not because they are nice to you, but because they are your parents! the paradise is under the feet of the mother. and the father is the gate to the jannah.

utk nikmat rasa bersalah ini, penulis bersyukur. and prays that. hati ini tidak dibolak-balik stlh diberi hidayah. dan. semoga dilembutkan hati ibubapa to understand & to fergive. ameen. (ameen kan sekali)

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3 comments:

Anonymous said...

somehow, my eyes cam strain sangat masa baca post ni..
not sure if my eyes are tired or ur fonts.. hhuhu..
neway, pasal pantang, and juga pasal kuar maghrib ni, satu cara parents dulu ajar anak adalah ngan cara takutkan dorang, rite? hantu laa..
kalo ikut ammar, dia namakan ideology of fear. ku kata imprisonment of the mind. haha..
pape je laa..
tp, basically, tu cara parents even sampai skang ajar anak..
takutkan something, and tak terangkan reason di sebaliknya, or hikmah..
apa yang patutnya dia paham, dan bukan sekadar tak buat sebab takutkan something yg irrelevant sbnanye..
minda dah dikongkong sejak kecik sebegitu..
in a way, cam efek hati dia gak.
maybe, yes, cara yg efektif utk bagi anak patuh pada certain arahan, but not really for the right reason..
stuju?

kima. said...

mmg susah nak baca pun. wordy sgt. and spacing tade. pastu justified plk. so nampak mcm sgt padat. (sengaja). ha ha.

psl pantanggg. hmm bila dah besar patutnya kena figure out sendiri la kan apa relevance nya. eheh.
ha'aa tp my dad tk ckp byk hantu. dia ckp byk syaitan.
tp sebenarnya ada je org tua2 yg sampai dah tua pun tatau hikmah pantang tu. hueh.
ni nak cerita ni. mcm ada sorg pakcik ni. ktorang adik beradik kena follow dia pergi somewhere. pastu masuk waktu maghrib. tp blh je balik awal sebenarnya. pakcik tu kata (dlm suasana music yg amat kuat): ayah awak mesti tk bagi kan keluar maghrib2 ni. hakimah: ha'aa mmg dia tk kasi. kan tk elok pun keluar maghrib2. pastu dia plk kata: tu utk budak2 kecik je. hakimah: *silenced sbb tk terjawab*

atiqahmki said...

likes this.
pasal pakcik tu, he is not the only one who think that way. unfortunately.